Worrying about what you cannot control leads to anxiety, fear paralysis and perfectionism.
One thing for sure is that you have little control over unexpected events. What you do have control over is how you will respond to the challenges that life can throw at you.
Being in a heightened state of anxiety or fear puts you at a disadvantage to respond to the unexpected or future events. Your body remains constantly in a high stress state impacting both your physical and mental health.
Here is a simple explanation of the brain science of stress and fear. When you are stressed or experiencing fear and anxiety the signals from your body posture, blood pressure, and parasympathetic nervous system keeps your brain in the fight, flight, freeze cycle in the Limbic System – the so called emotional brain. When the amygdala (processes emotions) in your Limbic System is firing you are in...
Overwhelmed by problems? Follow these 6 easy problem solving steps to get unstuck and find solutions to your problems - small and large. Use the 6 problem-solving steps to work through issues that are holding you back or creating conflict in your relationships. Happiness is not the absence of problems it is having the ability to solve them.
Sometimes it is not enough to just cope with your problems or issues you need to be able to work through them and find solutions. People who can solve problems have a greater sense of control in their lives and increased well-being.Problem Solving Skills can help you:
work through issues
overcome challenges
maintain relationships
gain a sense of control in your life
develop coping strategies
feel less stressed
feel less overwhelmed
feel less worry and anxiety
be less frustrated about issues
Following a step-by-step plan to define your problem, brainstorm solutions, implement, evaluate... 
A grateful world is full of joyful, happy people. How you imagine your happiness may differ from other people but we all want to be happy. To be happy you need to live a grateful life. Gratitude keys will help you be grateful and feel the happiness and joy in every moment you experience.What is Happiness?Some people appear to have everything but they are not happy always wanting more. Others have experienced misfortunes and sadness yet they are radiate happiness and joy. They are happy and joyful because they are grateful. Happiness does not make us grateful. Gratefulness makes us happy.What is Gratefulness?What makes us feel grateful at a heart level? When something that's really valuable to you and you realise that it's freely given, then gratefulness spontaneously rises in your heart. That is how gratefulness happens. Spontaneously, with the heartfelt gratitude, happiness and joy rises in your heart. Living Gratefully.You... 
The result of untreated stress - dis-stress, can lead to physical symptoms including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping. Chronic, untreated stress reactions are strongly associated with major mental health disorders and life- threatening physical disease.Stress is a normal part of life. The human body is designed to respond to stress triggers from your environment and internally from your body or your thoughts. Stress can be positive, keeping you alert and ready to respond to danger. Stress becomes negative when you are continually triggered by ‘stress-full’ challenges without any downtime – relief or relaxation.Benefits of Stress Reduction o Better concentration/focuso More stable moodso Improved communication/relationshipso Better physical healtho Increased sense of control of time and activity
What is Stress?
“Stress arises when individuals perceive that they cannot adequately cope with the demands being made on them or with demands being made on them or with threats... 
Thumbnail Photo Credit: David Sherry & Allie LehmanOptimism in the face of adversity allows you to stay out of the emotional overwhelm and engage with the wise mind! A realistic approach to problems gives you a better chance of finding a solution that works for you. The Dali Lama has a simple message in the face of adversity "do what you can and accept what you can’t!" Yes beautiful one you are doing the best you can and when you know better you will do better.
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Journal Use the 30 optimistic messages to your self and notice the changes in your attitude to and the way you manage your problems. Write or art journal your reflections over the next 30 days and I guarantee that you will change your brain to change your mindset. Photo Credit: Maresa Smith
30 Optimistic Messages to Your Self... 